Things I’m Starting in 2021
I’m not here to bash 2020…well, maybe a little, lol. We all know it’s been a challenging year for a lot of us. On the last day of the year, I’ve no desire to rehash all that’s gone wrong – but I do want to embrace the things, behaviors, and people that I want to see in next year and many more years to come.
So here’s my list of things I’m starting in 2021!
1) I’m a control freak and that has to go, so this year I’ll be working on being at peace when things don’t go as I planned or my way. In moments where I feel the floor beneath me crumbling, I’ll work hard to remind myself to surrender to the process. My power isn’t in my ability to control situations, but how I control MYSELF in situations.
2) I’m embracing emotional control in a way I never have before going forward. I will hold myself to a much higher standard in regards to minding my thoughts, my words, and how I let external things affect me. I tend to create unnecessary emotional highs and lows for myself by giving people and situations more energy than they really need. There is no way I will have the energy to accomplish my goals expending it on stuff that doesn’t really matter.
3) As I work to control my energy expenditures, this means that I need to work on giving out information in its simplest forms. I’m a habitual over-explainer. This desire to get my point across and feel “believed” has turned me into a habitual arguer- and no thanks! As I unpack how I got to this point, I realize the first step in change is learning and practicing trusting myself. I need to show up for me first…I need to believe Sharee.
4) I will use my imagination for it’s intended purpose – to create interesting and engaging content as an expression of all that I am. I’ve spent so much time using my imagination to remember and obsess over the past and/or create unrealistic scenarios in my mind as an escape from the real stressors in my life. This coping mechanism has literally saved my life in the past, but I’m ready to learn ways to deal with and heal from trauma, so I’ll strive to channel my creativity in a new direction.
5) I accept that self-care is a form of self-love and it’s a multifaceted endeavor. Loving Sharee means embracing my vanity, healing wounds, making a skincare routine and keeping it, setting and honoring boundaries by myself and by others, getting more massages and facials, letting go of unhealthy attachments (people, foods, thoughts, etc), as well as taking care of my mental and physical self. I will make Sharee’s overall well-being a priority.
I choose to be a “new me” every single day going forward.
We all reserve the right to change, and there’s no need to wait for a new year to do it!
